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Release Date: Apr 15, 2009
Genre: Rock
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Sex, A Study of the Good Bits of Song of Solomon, Mark Driscoll

Here is a great talk by Mark Driscoll about sex from the MenMakers Conference in England.

Interesting talk with tidbits of the history of sexuality teaching in the church. Pastor Driscoll is also very funny.


Photography Class

I taught my first beginner photography class tonight to two wonderful students - both who want to take better pictures of their kids. I originally thought that I would teach lecture style, but in coming up with how and what I wanted to teach in the class, I realized that I really do not think that I could ever be a lectern teacher - I need to be more of a lab teacher. And, when it comes down to it, how do you learn photography but by doing it.

This pinpoints one of the most important things about taking up this wonderful hobby of photography (for me, it is much more than a hobby, but for the average person, that is what it is). You really need to get out there and do it yourself. I am really hoping that these girls don't expect me to regurgitate their manuals - or that I will talk about how "the inverse square law" means this and that - I won't be that teacher. What I want to be is like your best friend who knows something and really can't wait to share it with you - and you really can't help but get excited about it, too.

In reality, I still have a lot of things to learn about photography - a lot of the neat things that this or that lens can do that it's equivalent can't because of how it is made, or what its max aperture is, etc. But these are all advanced techniques that many times you can only learn by doing. There is very little in photography that you can learn just by reading anyway. Very little. What has to happen is familiarity. Very like an athlete who practices a certain move day after day until one day, s/he is faced with the situation in a game/race/whatever, and the moment happens where you either stop thinking and DO it, or you are paralyzed by it. Shooting your first paying gig only on Manual setting is a good example.

So, I enjoyed myself immensely, and hope that my students did as well.


Spousal Communication and Facebook

Better Husband.

A friend of mine commented on a group that I had joined on Facebook "If Your Spouse is a facebook Friend, You Need to Work on Communication!". He actually looked at what the group stood for, or was about. I didn't. I am glad that he pointed out that the idea is to unfriend your spouse. He thought that that was a bad idea, nor because the stated ideal is to keep your communication between spouses real, not virtual, which is admirable. No, it is because it seems to encourage hiding what you do online from your spouse.

I thought about that and I have to agree. I don't want Amber to think that I am hiding my friends from her, or vice versa. Now, I know that there are people for whom the web is addictive -especially apps like Facebook, which can take a lot of time. However, I don't think that the answer would necessarily be to unfriend your spouse. On the contrary, I think that you can come to a greater understanding of your sig oth by being on a social media site with them. Things that you say there can help you see things about your spouse that you wouldn't normally see or feel with your daily filter on.

Soli Deo Gloria


Oh, my goodness, my inner geek just screamed like a little girl at christmas


This guy made this image with 220 images taken with his Canon G-10 at the inauguration. Go crazy and double click on the picture a bunch of times - it is amazing how close you can get! WOWOWOWOWOWOW!!


Revolutionary Moms

Carla, a friend of mine from college, is a writer/editor for such publications as Today's Christian Woman and Christian Parenting Today. She is currently co-writing a blog called the Mommy Revolution. I have been following it for a little while, and I just read this post, called "the Cult of the Family", which spoke very eloquently to me, and to a post that I had written last year Should I love my kids more than my wife? on this very blog. 

Toward the end of that post, which is really a series of emails between myself and a friend, I talk a little bit about how I felt I had left out a "role", that I should take more seriously, from my list of "My Roles, In Order". These roles are Husband, Father, Friend, Photographer, Musician, Painter, Writer. The "role" that I feel I had left out was christian, with a small "c". The intent would be to Fear and Love God first and foremost, so that all other things will fall into the right place - and that would be the marriage, the fatherhood, the work, the music, etc. 

I still struggle on a daily basis to allow God to truly be at the tiller, truly be Jah Guide. Truly be that still small voice that I listen to. I think that that is the reason, too. God doesn't speak, God whispers. And in todays world, that whisper is really quite difficult to hear, unless you make an attempt to listen directly for it. 

Anyway, Carla is blogging about how some of the messages that the Christian church give to women of all stripes is "Christian women are taught that motherhood will someone complete us, that in motherhood we will find the culmination of all our hopes and dreams."and that one possible "result is that women come to believe that our ultimate worth comes from motherhood, not from our relationship with God." I think this is somehow what it is that is speaking to me, in regards to how it relates to my previous post and how I feel about this subject, even for men. 

As a husband, I know that I harbor feelings in my heart that are downright hateful toward my wife, sometimes. As much as it shames me to say that, it is true, and I would be lying if I said anything different. I think, of the issues that we dealt with last year, my own insecurities over being laid-off from my Graphic Design J.O.B. and not working for the past 6 months is the one that we have let stand in the corner, the white elephant, as it were. Do not get me wrong, I am so joyful (deliberate choice of words, because it doesn't mean happy, per se) at my new role as principal caregiver (can't quite call myself House-Husband, it seems trite), and I would not change what I am doing right now with my kids. However, when it comes up in conversation, it is difficult to say that I am just a Dad. Since I am a photographer, I often say that - but in truth, I am a Dad first. That is a very difficult thing for a man in todays world as well. To just be a dad. It eats at the core of the being, if there isn't something else there. I don't think I have filled the core of my being with Christ yet, as I am not naked and unashamed, even in conversation with my beloved wife. I am getting better, and I pray that all the time, but I think that the core of my problem is what I have thought was my core, my value as a person, seems to have been wrapped up in what I did for a living, and not what God would have me be/do.

My prayer (when I remember it) these last few months has been this: Lord, take away the selfish core, allow me to die every night, so that I may be born again in your image. 


last year I made a promise, a resolution, to be a better husband and a better dad. I was so gung ho about that, and feeling so good about it, that I started this blog. Then real life set in and decided to test me. Suffice it to say, I felt that actually being a dad and a husband was more important than trying to write about it. Things have leveled off a bit these days, and so it is once more into the breach - as it were. I am re-resolving to post to this blog on a more regular basis. Hopefully, what this will do is force me to analyze my days, my actions, and become a more thoughtful, purposeful (that doesn't seem to be the right word…) husband and father. Actually, a more thoughtful and purpose-filled person would be even better. So, to that end…